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Stonewalling is a communication behaviour in which one person in a conversation, typically during conflict or disagreement, withdraws from the interaction and refuses to engage in or respond to their partner.

It involves shutting down emotionally and physically, and may include avoiding eye contact, refusing to speak, or walking away from the conversation.

These behaviours can be very damaging to relationships, as they prevent healthy communication and can create a sense of distance and resentment between partners. It is important to recognise stonewalling in your own behaviour or in your partner’s behaviour and work towards more constructive communication patterns to build a stronger, healthier relationship.

Stonewalling is a form of passive aggression, as it can be used as a way to control the interaction and manipulate the other person’s emotions. It can be very frustrating and hurtful behaviour for the person on the receiving end, as it can feel like their concerns or feelings are being dismissed or ignored.

It is important to work on as active listening strategies, expressing feelings in a respectful manner, and seeking professional help if needed.

Some examples of stone walling include:

1. Refusing to engage in a conversation or discussion with your partner.
2. Ignoring your partner’s attempts to communicate with you.
3. Giving one-word answers or short responses that do not contribute to the conversation.
4. Walking away or leaving the room during a conversation or argument.
5. Pretending to be busy or distracted when your partner is trying to talk.
6. Refusing to make eye contact or showing disinterest during a conversation.
7. Interrupting your partner or talking over them to prevent them from expressing their feelings or concerns.
8. Using silence as a weapon to punish or manipulate your partner.

Silence can be deafening in a relationship. Stonewalling may seem like a way to avoid conflict, but it actually creates distance and can damage the foundation of your love.⁠

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