Why Emotional Cheating can be worst then a Physical Affair
Adam Levine, known as a world-renowned singer and front man of the popular group Marron 5. However, last year Levine came into to spotlight for another reason. Days after his wife announced her third pregnancy, it was exposed that Levine was texting girls half his age on various social media platforms.
These messages consisted of sexually inappropriate content. So far four girls have come forward providing evidence of the messaging, some of which contained content on his wife, Behati Prinsloo.
“I did not have an affair,” Levine states, “Nevertheless, I crossed a line during a regrettable period in my life. In certain instances, it became inappropriate.” But in reality, this most certainly counts as cheating, just not in the traditional sense.
This is an example of emotional cheating, which encapsulates any behaviour you perform with another person that breaches the trust of your partner and the agreed upon parameters of your relationship.
Rachel says, “There’s no one singular definition, but it’s something that sits outside the boundaries of what you and your partner have agreed on. Anything outside the agreed transparency and that breaches intimacy is a form of cheating.” Rachels says that the emotional fallout from this type of cheating can be even greater impact than that of a physical affair.
“In my experience, nobody likes the idea of their partner having sex with somebody else but an emotional affair and reading the kind of messages Levine sent, tends to have a much deeper and worst effect on people. Suddenly someone else knows all this stuff that you don’t know about, and the person you’re closest to is sharing themselves with someone else and that’s when intimacy immediately flips onto betrayal. Those messages will be seared into her (Prinsloo’s) memory forever; it’s the worst kind of trauma.”
However, Rachel said it is possible to repair the broken trust and intimacy within a relationship when a form of emotional cheating has occurred. “Humans make bad choices every day; we’re not good at avoiding the things we know we shouldn’t do. When it comes to overcoming this kind of cheating, it’s about looking at what’s driving this and what they can learn. Going through that can be incredible, but it’s confronting and takes a lot of hard work.”
Understanding what emotional cheating is, is all about understanding your and your partner’s boundaries. “Ask yourself, would you speak to a person the way you are privately in front of your partner? Would you be comfortable with your partner reading those messages? If the answer is no, it’s emotional cheating.”
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